It doesn’t help that most of your friends are likely to be coupled up, so it’s not uncommon to feel isolated and unsure where to start.But contrary to what you might think, there are thousands of normal, healthy people online looking to meet someone great.” Elizabeth, 52, had been married for almost 25 years when her husband told her he’d met someone else. Your children seem unbelievably wonderful, and your own reflection in the mirror starts to not look so horrible. About all those feelings and the touching and the joy and the thrill and that passion and the love. You start to notice the different shades of green of the leaves in that tree that has been outside your house for years and years.
It’s no coincidence these two things go hand-in-hand. No matter how contentious or acrimonious or downright explosively miserable the end of your marriage was, being divorced is better. It is as if those cracks of light inside of you are now on the outside. All of a sudden, you start to notice that there are men in the world.
“Dating in midlife and beyond can be daunting,” says relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James.
“It can feel like you have to start all over again, and the routes you probably used when you were younger might not be open to you anymore.
There is no speculating this time, no guessing about what he might look like in middle age, or whether he will fulfill all those dazzling plans he lays out, or whether he has the capacity for love and friendship and joy.
Now that I'm nearing the end of the divorce process (it's a marathon — not a sprint!