Since then, I have done lots of internet research, consulted with nurses and doctors, and done a little soul-searching to see how I should deal with the STD.
Most opinions agreed, without an outbreak, I was probably not contagious and should be just fine.
Living with HSV1 is perfectly fine in my mind, but not in the minds of others.
The very first week of school, when asked point blank if I had ever had an STD, I blurted out, ‘Yes, I had a cold sore, but I’m not contagious.’ As a result of that little conversation, it was quickly disseminated to the student population that I had herpes, and I was best a stone left unturned. I managed to have a physical and emotional relationship with one person for about a year.
Give Your Partner Lots of Support and Encouragement. You'll both be VERY, VERY EMOTIONAL better to call it an early evening. That was the first moment I thought that I might have a normal life. Firstly, it was painful and gross, and then I was worried about the implications it'd have on my then-relationship and potential future relationships. And I felt incredibly stupid and ashamed, like I could have avoided it if I had just been more careful and, oh, I dunno, refused oral sex from my then-boyfriend whenever he had even the slightest hint of a cold sore. I've always practiced safe sex, so it felt really unfair, aside from anything else.But then again, herpes is tricky because you can pass it on without any apparent symptoms. And how would you say it has affected your sex life since? Because I have the oral strain on my genitals, it's nearly impossible to transmit, especially since I can't handle hormonal birth control and therefore have to use condoms every time anyway.If you’ve been physically intimate, freaking out was probably your first reaction (Do I now have herpes? Then come the other questions: Is herpes a deal breaker? But first, let’s get straight on what herpes is and what it isn’t.Are you stupid to continue a relationship with someone who has herpes? There are two viruses that people talk about when they talk about herpes: Herpes Simplex Virus 1 and Herpes Simplex Virus 2, or HSV-1 and HSV-2.They also told me, since HSV1 is incredibly common, it’s nothing to stress about.